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Maria Lorena Diez Canseco Briceño is
Director of the Psychologist Department of
the San Pablo Catholic University, Arequipa,
Peru.
Degrees in Psychology, Philosophy,
Humani�es; Learning Problems, Child and
Adolescent guidance and Counseling, and
Family Psychotherapy

Lorena Diez
Canseco Briceño
(Peru)

Comment to

„Finding the Balance Between Self-Sacrifice and Self-Care in Rela�onships to
Maintain Healthy Love Dynamics“

In a very clear way, the ar�cle present to us the tor for people’s deployment and also for the
importance that it has for the well-being of a establishment of a solid rela�onships based on
person and for the progress of a healthy and a reciprocal and true love that promotes the
balanced roman�c rela�onship, the fact of well-being of both persons. Taking as a star�ng
knowing how to find the right balance bet- point the achievement of the before men�o-
ween self-sacrifice and self-care, meaning the ned op�mal balance between self-sacrifice and
right balance between the effort that someone self-care, we understand that it is not about
can and must make while looking forward the one of these two taking precedence over the
well-being of the other persona, and the effort other, but rather, that it is important to help
that is also necessary and important to carry people to achieve a balance between both
out for the own well-being. concepts and therefore finding different ways
of carrying out a rela�onship.
The route taken in the ar�cle seems extremely From a psychotherapeu�c perspec�ve, the ar-
interes�ng to me, since it stands out how, from �cle seeks – firstly – to know the causes that
a Chris�an view of the world, people can mi- explain the behaviour of people who put their
stakenly consider self-sacrifice as a posi�ve be- own interests ahead of those of others. Alt-
haviour that can lead them to happiness in a hough from a Chris�an view of the world, the-
roman�c rela�onship with another human se people are considered altruis�c and there-
being. From this lecture, we can conclude that fore with a personal maturity level that leads
the a�tude of service and the act of looking them to serve and seek the good of others; it is
forward the other’s person welfare, is not ne- also known that this extreme service a�tude
ga�ve, but rather, meaning that if this implies with others that puts the own needs at risk,
the neglect of own desires and needs and the from a psychological approach, implies a series
deteriora�on of the own iden�ty, in the long of shortcomings, for example: the pressure ex-
run it ends up being an extremely nega�ve fac- perienced to sa�sfy people’s expecta�ons to

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