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maintain harmony in interrela�onships , the provided goes beyond the approaches and
low self-esteem behind these avoided conflict
behaviours, among other aspects that may be
due to different factors such as educa�on, past
experiences and expecta�ons of society that
values these behaviours posi�vely.
The ar�cle clearly explains the nega�ve conse-
quences for the person and for an affec�ve re-
la�onship that this type of postponement of
oneself brings, and I personally consider this to
be utmost importance and necessity, and is one
of the great contribu�ons in the ar�cle, since
by taking into account these nega�ve conse-
quences, it can be understood that the self-sa-
crifice has been misunderstood and therefore
put into prac�ce in a wrong way, which has led
to dependent and unhealthy rela�onships,
which generates nega�ve emo�onal rela�ons-
hips, where abuse and submission become
aspects that harms the people involved, both
the couple and the rest of the family, like child-
ren who can imitate certain pa�erns of beha-
viour and internalize them, crea�ng a beha-
vioural pa�ern that can be rooted through
�me.
Considering the nega�ve consequences that
the misunderstood self-sacrifice brings to the
life of a persona and to society, is that psycholo-
gical interven�on is extremely necessary to
help the person achieve an authen�c self-
knowledge, so that from this recogni�on the
person would be able to establish limits in rela-
�onships, which will allow a certain autonomy
and care for the own iden�ty. At this point, psy-
chotherapy helps a lot, since it is considered an
art: the way of approaching others, maintaining
affec�ve rela�onships that will become healthy
and beneficial for personal deployment; and
since many �mes people cannot achieve said
objec�ves with their own tools.
In that way, the author of the Ar�cle Patrycja
Ewa Longawa, presents different therapeu�c
points of view, and interven�on schemes that
can be of great help while trying to achieve this
goal; however, the effec�veness of the help
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schemes; since it involves working on changing
the way of thinking and understanding reality
for the person as it is and empathizing with the
reality of other people, so a�er that, voluntari-
ly, the person will be able to make specific
changes on how to relate with others; in that
way I consider that the psychotherapist beco-
mes vitally important, as they have to be able
to create an atmosphere of trust with the pa�-
ent. So that the pa�ent could change the own
mental schemes and internalize the benefits
that his internal changes, a�tude and beha-
viour will bring to his life – not only for himself,
but also for those who surround him. This even
includes the change of paradigms and beliefs as
posi�ve as the understanding of the life of ser-
vice to others that the Chris�an life implies; the
therapist must know how to iden�fy and pro-
pose certain changes; without leading to the
reduc�on of beliefs of this type, but rather,
being able to help the person to internalize the
true meaning of service and a�en�on to
others, where phrases as “love thy neighbour
as thyself” shows us the true meaning of self-
sacrifice and self-care, and also the importance
of reaching a balance between both. Another
important aspect to consider is that “no one gi-
ves what they do not have”, therefore self-care
and the search for personal development are
crucial before seeking to serve others.
I personally congratulate Patrycja Ewa Longawa
for wri�ng such and interes�ng and important
ar�cle, which presents us a topic that involves
improving the love rela�onships between two
people who, by crea�ng a harmonious and ba-
lanced family, will contribute posi�vely to the
good development of society, furthermore by
considering the topic of self-sacrifice and self-
care from a Chris�an and psychological
perspec�ve, it gives us a significant contribu�-
on for the integra�on between psychology and
Chris�anity, which I consider very necessary
nowadays.