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Two experience reports with the Agape As a result, I scored the most points in category
Ques�onnaire 8 (love as a chance happening) followed by
category 6 (pro-feelings in rela�onships).
"The Agape Ques�onnaire made it clear to me
once again that the strengths of my love are The posi�ve experiences in these areas are
directly connected to the weaknesses of my bearing fruit and have changed me and my
love. My strengths of "being for others" and behaviour.
"loving selflessly" enable me to empathise with I scored the lowest in category 5. It's true, I
other people, to interrupt my work when I'm o�en feel under �me pressure and feel I have
needed and to be able to put my own needs to to make the most of my �me. A�er all, I also
one side. I am grateful for that! My love is need �me for myself. And then I find myself
characterised by the fact that I like to help and scrolling through social media or playing a word
am able to act in crisis or problem situa�ons. At search game on my mobile phone... These rob
the same �me, however, I also no�ce that I feel my �me robbers and I open the door to them.
the need to remain "vigilant" about my weak Even though I think social media are in
point of love: "se�ng boundaries". This under- themselves a great inven�on and can really be
trained part of my love causes me to neglect put to good use. But, as I say, they are not just
myself again and again. This some�mes that...
manifests itself in �me stress because I have
said yes too o�en instead of s�cking to my For me, this is the conclusion: I want to make
tasks. Or some�mes I get annoyed or even more use of the �me given to me to live
exhausted and realise that I haven't been and love (ques�on 5). Not selfishly, yet doing
taking enough care of myself (self-love). more than simply presen�ng people with
lovingly wrapped gi�s. I want to bring �me with
As a learning exercise, therefore, I want to work me. A�er all, it was lovingly given to me, as the
on assuring myself of the statement in point 24 high score in category 8 clearly shows. What
of the Ques�onnaire: "Nothing can separate did and does me good and fulfils me will also
me from the love of God." How do I do this? I make my fellow human beings happy. If at
don't know yet. However, one thing has rarely some point they feel it's becoming too much of
let me down in the past: God's assurances that a good thing, they can honestly say so."
"You are good enough for me"; "You don't have
to prove yourself". These assurances
strengthen me, fill me with love, which I need
for my strengths and weaknesses in love."

"I found the Ques�onnaire to be profound and
not always comfortable. I have my own ideas
about how I would like to be. A�er a few
ques�ons, my inner voice spoke up: 'Are you
really like that, is that honest? Wouldn't it be
be�er for people who know me well to answer
these ques�ons?' Ques�ons that I once
casually answered with " Absolutely right"
came back to me a few ques�ons later,
especially in ques�on 5. Absolutely right - but is
that how I live my everyday life? What was
going on recently when...

As I went on, I suspected that one category
would probably not go my way.

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