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In my opinion, it would be good to separate The problems here may, however, be that the
these ques�ons and make two groups of them: statement has been taken directly from the Bi-
a) is it easy or difficult for the person filling in ble and "A good Chris�an" replies to the ques�-
the form to set boundaries for another person on automa�cally "correctly" (9-10) without de-
in general. b) is it easy or difficult for the person ba�ng profoundly how it really corresponds to
filling in the form to set boundaries when it his/her own experiences. It is embarrassing to
would be necessary to take care of his/her own admit that my experience does not correspond
sufficient resources. Category 8 (love as a chan- to the Bible's word.
ce happening) describes love in the first place
as God's gi� for another person. There is As the therapist of Chris�an people, I o�en
nothing blameful there but I would like to have hear how the client talks about the pain that is
addi�onal ques�ons to describe ways to accept caused when his/her wife/husband or parent is
God's love for the person filling in the form willing to help people outside the family wi-
(God's love to him/herself). This is because thout saving �me and effort, but s/he does not
God's love to me is the spring that enables me no�ce the needs of his/her own family mem-
to give love to other people (Ps. 23:5). If I am bers. It would be good to include this subject in
unable to accept God's love and if I don't know the form, too.
my own value, I end up helping other people
with my own strength. Then I might become ex- In addi�on, helping mo�ves are a significant
hausted or want to be alone because I think theme that could be dealt with, too, perhaps. If
that I don't have anything to give. a law, a feeling of guilt and/or rejec�on of one-
self are the mo�ves for helping and giving, it is
The second part of Ques�on 5 brings out this ques�onable whether the work is full of bles-
subject shortly, but more a�en�on should be sing. Many people help other people without
paid to it in my opinion. Ques�on 8 describes becoming aware of the fact that it is actually an
the gi� nature of love but it also has the possi- escape from his/her own pain and longing for
bility to pass the acceptance of a gi� to oneself. those very things s/he hurries to give to other
Ques�on 24 may be planned to describe how people. I myself have done that many years,
the person filling in the form experiences the hopefully not so much anymore.
acceptance of love from God to him/herself.
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