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our Father. This experience would change our In this article I argued that a strong defense
anxiety, thoughts and concerns about existenti- against an elevated EI, from a Christian psycho-
al isolation. This experience is the starting point logical viewpoint, would be found in a secure
of a journey to get to know the Father better and attachment to God and a deep experience of fel-
form a secure attachment with him. As indica- lowship with a personal God. The type of prayer
ted previously, a secure attachment is a defense that would create this defense includes listening
against a high degree of EI. It is not in the scope to God speaking, while reading his Word, si-
of this article to expand on all the elements of lence and waiting for God to come closer, liste-
this experience but seeking an I-share moment ning to the Holy Spirit enlightening God’s Word
with a personal God through prayer set the sta- and an emotional/verbal response to express
ge to develop a secure attachment to God and a the shared experience with God. It could lead
strong defense against an elevated EI. to an I-share moment that could connect us to
and deepen our trust in God as our Father. The
Thus, a secure attachment to God would coun- inner peace and harmony that will flow from
ter the experience of existential isolation. A high this connection will break through existential
degree of EI correlates with an avoidant attach- isolation and will secure our deepest realization
ment style as mentioned above. It means that that we are not alone but forever part of God.
a person learned early in childhood not expect
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